I started writing as a means of healing after the egregious actions of a few shattered my first born’s life before she even took her first breath. Telling Virginia’s story has been life giving for me, and it has offered a way for me to process the lessons I have learned in the darkest moments of this journey. I no longer feel the need to constantly revisit the hard days of her early years, but choosing to see the joy in Virginia’s life instead of the pain remains a conscious, daily effort, and I think it always will be. 

If you read the posts under the Favorites tab, you will get a glimpse of what these last twelve years have looked like. I hope they offer encouragement to anyone in the midst of loss, and proof that even the greatest suffering is not beyond redemption. 

To be fully engaged in this world means that we all experience both deep suffering and incredible joy every day. This blog documents my feeble attempt to live in the tension between those truths. I think 2 Corinthians 6:10 says it best, “Our hearts ache, but we always have joy.”